Apparently doing my job is what made my client hate me, oh and the fact that I'm fat (500 pounds according to her). She wanted me to just sit there for 12 hours and basically ignore her, like the other girls do.
I "notice everything" and am always "aggravating her on purpose" because I ask if she is okay when she gets up moaning in pain, or if she needs anything, (food/drink/blanket).
Earlier tonight I was sitting on the couch reading and she goes, "I don't want you to sit there, your gonna tear it up." I asked her how and she said, "Well don't you know how huge you are? What do you weigh 500 pounds?!"
I asked her if that's why she didn't like me, because I'm fat and not pretty like the other girls. She said,"That's not the only reason!"
Then she tells me how she never liked me, she just puts up with me and I make her so nervous that her kidneys aren't working right.
She's been hostile ever since my schedule changed and I started working 60 hours/week at her house, 24 of them in a row.
She's talked shit about me to her family, saying I'm the worst person she has and that I'm too huge to sit on her furniture.
She says my work needs to think about that before they send me to people's houses because they can't afford to fix the stuff that I break with my fatass.
It's not fair that I'm being disrespected and treated like this just because I'm doing my job. It's not fair that I am loosing all my hours because I'm fat.
Every other client I've ever had RAVE about how much they love me and what a good caregiver I am. What did I do to make this one hate me? And why does it hurt so much?
I "notice everything" and am always "aggravating her on purpose" because I ask if she is okay when she gets up moaning in pain, or if she needs anything, (food/drink/blanket).
Earlier tonight I was sitting on the couch reading and she goes, "I don't want you to sit there, your gonna tear it up." I asked her how and she said, "Well don't you know how huge you are? What do you weigh 500 pounds?!"
I asked her if that's why she didn't like me, because I'm fat and not pretty like the other girls. She said,"That's not the only reason!"
Then she tells me how she never liked me, she just puts up with me and I make her so nervous that her kidneys aren't working right.
She's been hostile ever since my schedule changed and I started working 60 hours/week at her house, 24 of them in a row.
She's talked shit about me to her family, saying I'm the worst person she has and that I'm too huge to sit on her furniture.
She says my work needs to think about that before they send me to people's houses because they can't afford to fix the stuff that I break with my fatass.
It's not fair that I'm being disrespected and treated like this just because I'm doing my job. It's not fair that I am loosing all my hours because I'm fat.
Every other client I've ever had RAVE about how much they love me and what a good caregiver I am. What did I do to make this one hate me? And why does it hurt so much?
Ooooohhh MY gosh. Is she a mental patient by any chance? I had one nightmare patient sorta like that once...She was a Holocaust survivor, and one of those where unless you did things EXACTLY as she would have the first time, even if it was your first time working with her, you were on her shit list. I did everything in my power to oblige her but in the end, I wound up switching patients with another girl. Sooooo much better than having her tell me what a horrible person I was EVERY day, it can definitely screw with your mind and confidence. Maybe try seeing if there is someone else you could work with? And until then, just brush it off as her having personal issues. You know what she's saying isn't true and so does everyone who matters, and that's all that's important.
ReplyDeleteSometimes ppl are so insecure about themselves that they find oneor person that is sweet and big hearted to pick on and ruin their lives. Your an amazing person Jess and you need to know that if its just one person thats doing that to you then its not worth it bc obviously everybody else loves you. Maybe she is insecure about something in her life or something about her reason of needing someone for inhome care and idk her background or how she is but i know some ppl that have behaviors like dementia and alzhiemers say that kind of stuff and it hurts but thats part of how they are. You have such a big heart and your not fat!!!!!!! I love you very much hunnie oxoxox
ReplyDeleteSome people just suck! Period! Dont listen to her, she sounds like a bitter old bitch that jus needs a solid ass rodgering. I feel for you girl. I would jus stay away from her and if she needs you tell her to text you.
ReplyDeleteHey I know there are people in this world that are just mad a people and hate something and can never change it!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry I wish she could see how great you are and you two could get along... Hold your head up and no matter what anyone says your not a fatass you beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOmg Hun! What a bitch!!! You are not fat! She just has a major pickle up her ass. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that! Could your work switch your houses, that way you can keep your hours but not need to work for her?
ReplyDeleteThanks everyone, I really appreciate the sweet comments.
ReplyDelete@Twin, No she's not a mental pt. She had the VERY beginning stages of Alzheimer's and just wants someone to SIT with her. I am "too eager" to help.
@Jessi, I am gonna be switching houses but with in home care the hours change depending on what the client needs.
I highly doubt that I'll get my 60hrs/wk with Fri & Sat off back. :(
Oh my GOSH, I can not believe she said those things! She is obviously completely crazy. You really have to take things that older people say with a grain of salt sometimes. My grandma is always saying things like "I'm not your grandmother anymore" and stuff like that for not calling her back quickly enough. She's off so I just ignore it and it doesn't bother me. I hope you don't have to go back to that house and deal with that verbal abuse anymore, no one should have to hear that. And remember that she is old and crazy and don't let her words sink in!! Good luck getting enough hours. =/
ReplyDeleteI suggest suffocating her with a pillow.
ReplyDeleteOkay, I know it's REALLY horrible, but I LMAO at that. Thanks :)
DeleteLOL. No problem. If you don't have a healthy dose of cynicism in your blood, you'll die in this world. :P
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